The Happy Mom


I was on Facebook (yeah, I know.... again)  and this popped up on my feed. 

Normally I share things (ok, a lot of things) but this one made me stop. It made me think.... how often do we as mothers try to be that "perfect" mom?


How many parties did we plan, using Pinterest as the guide to making it look "cool"?


How many holidays did we scroll through Pinterest, Facebook, or Instagram trying to 'recreate' something we found?


How many salads did you put in a mason jar? (ok this one was a joke - I mean... only slightly) 


How many times did you scroll through your friends' feed and think "wow, I wished I  could do x,y,z"?


I bet it's been more than once. 

Why though? Have you ever tried to stop yourself and ask why? 

There's a term we teach during US History ... 'Keeping up with the Joneses', which basically means (in case you forgot your time in US History class) we try to constantly compete with our neighbors. This phrase became popular during the 1920's, where wealth and credit (basically the lack of wealth) began to rise. People were constantly competing, trying to outdo the neighbor, trying to have a higher status .... which is what so many moms try to do now.

I'm going to share something with you.... (and maybe, I'm really just sharing it with myself)

STOP

Stop trying to outdo your neighbor. 
Stop going on Pinterest to make lavish parties. (b/c let's be honest... they aren't really ever that lavish)
Stop trying to be perfect.

I'm going to repeat that last phrase again.....

Stop. Trying. To. Be. Perfect.

Perfection isn't possible. In order to reach the possibility of perfection you would have to constantly be improving, constantly be changing, constantly be doing something. Rumor has it, once you "achieve it" there is ALWAYS something more.....

So instead of trying to be perfect, let's learn how to be happy.

Learn what makes you happy.

Maybe it's music.
Maybe it's a sunset.
Maybe it's doing something for yourself.
Maybe it's learning a new skill.
Maybe it's a cup of warm tea.

Maybe ......... it just being you.




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