New Month... New You?????


I was on Facebook today (shocker I know...) and I saw this post ..... it made me think.


How many times in your life do you look for a new beginning, a new start, a new something? 


Then I began to really think..... did I do this before I became a mom? ..... my answer? No I don't actually believe that I did. So now that makes me wonder ..... why (as a mom) am I constantly trying to do something new? Have new results? Change with each season? Why? What is it about the dreaded "mom guilt" that has this nagging voice inside my head pressing me to change something?


Now don't get me wrong - a reflection process is GREAT. It really is. Thinking and processing interactions that we have had in our lives or a project that we did and identify what we could do differently in the future is NOT what I am talking about. That process is actually amazing and something that we are humans should be do often. 


BUT.... that's not what I'm talking about ......

How many times in the month of April did you say:

Why did I do that?
What is wrong with me?
Am I doing this wrong?
What do I have to give up to be better?
I am failing at this whole mom thing!
Why is it soooo hard to teach my own kids? (b/c you know... quarantine)  


Why do we say this? 
Why do I say this? 

Do I say this because I live in this digital age where the "perfect mom" is physically fit, perfect skin, has a spotless house, and full meal spreads every day?

Is it because I live in this social media bubble where we only share the good and not the bad?

Is this why we(moms) do the things we do?


So I have decided I am going to stop.

The perfect life is an illusion - it is what we think or make it to be. 

So in this new month; with a new attitude and mindset ...  I can do it. You can do it. We can do it.

So go be amazing this month moms. 

Go be YOUR version of perfect - whatever that might look like. 


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